Today is International Family Day. The family is called to be a source of care, respect, love. A person’s life begins with a family, his personality is formed in the family. Despite the fact that in the modern world there is a problem of the growth of single-parent families, a large number of divorces, the refusal to give birth to children, many happy families live near us, which cause admiration and can serve as a model for others.
One such friendly and wonderful family lives next to me. This is the Korshun family. The young beautiful mother is Olya, and dad Sasha.
Tell about your family. How many children do you have? Who is how old?
Narrates Olga:
- I am from Mogilev, I came to Minsk to get a higher education, where I met my husband. Our family is 12 years old this year. We have three kids.
The eldest daughter is Angelina. She is 10 years old. Studying in the 5th grade, at the same time studying at a choreographic school. The comprehensive school cooperates with the choreographic school, therefore, in its class are all dancers.
The average child is a son. His name is Artyom. He goes to the garden. He's 5.
The youngest daughter was born in April last year. They called Amelia. Now I am on parental leave.
How did you decide on three children? It is so difficult to provide them with everything you need. What were the difficulties and how to deal with it?
- Initially, we decided that we would have two children. Immediately after the wedding, I became pregnant with my first child. Five years later, a second was planned. I became pregnant with my third child again after five years, but not planned, and we decided that it was given to us from above. There are some circumstances in which I believe. It was not scary, because I myself come from a large family. I have two older brothers.
There were some difficulties with pregnancies: with all three, I had to lie in the hospital for conservation. The first birth proceeded with complications, but we only believed in all the best that happened to us.
Yes, all children have their own age needs, but now it doesn’t scare us, we can cope with this. Difficulties arise also due to the epidemiological situation in the world: I sit with children at home, and my husband works. True, the future is a little scary, because everyone needs to be taught in higher education.
What were the expectations of life with three children and did they coincide with reality?
- Children are our joy! The husband rejoiced at the birth of a third child, probably more than the first. It was expected that it would be very difficult, because one goes to school, the other to the garden, and her husband is constantly at work. The garden is far away, I had to go pick my son myself, but at the same time it’s a walk in the fresh air, which’s a plus.
The elders help in caring for the youngest, play with her, and can feed her. Therefore, so far everything is easy. My parents also help, give my husband and I time to walk together, to be alone with each other. Our fears about possible difficulties did not materialize.
Tell us about a funny incident in your family.
- There are a lot of funny stories, you can't even remember everyone, some are forgotten, leaving just warm memories. There was a case when we celebrated my dad's birthday, anniversary. Everyone was sitting at the table, Artyom was sleeping peacefully in the crib (at that time he was two weeks old), Angelina was playing with toys. And suddenly she disappeared from sight. Let's go look for her. As it turned out, Tyoma had already woken up, and Angelina saw this, as she often looked in the room to look at her brother and decided to shift him to a children's chaise lounge. When we went into the room, Angelina was already fastening Artyom lying in a deck chair. To the question: “Angelina, why did you get him out of the crib, are you still small (5 years old), but is he heavy for you?” She answered: “I thought he was bored there.”
The younger one is also annealing. We have two cats, one of them lives almost from the birth of Angelina, but none of the elders got into a bowl of cat food. And Amelia is drawn! As in the joke directly: "if the third child climbs into the cat’s food, then this is the cat’s problem." She seems to have a daily ritual to wet her hands in cat's drink, to take away food from them. She has time to pick it up, because she is nimble, but there isn’t in her mouth, we select it. In general, fun with three, just know what to do with them.
What advice can you give to couples who want to have many children, but doubt?
- Children are undoubtedly happiness! My advice is that if you believe in yourself and you are ready to give birth, raise and provide for your children, then, of course, give birth. They need love, affection and care from you, and in return they will give you joy and happiness!
And I want to add that Olya’s father and mother also have three children - Olya and two brothers. One brother has two children, the other three. In general, grandparents have 8 grandchildren. Here is such a big, successful and wonderful family!
Interviewed by Oksana Semenyuk
